What is a Toi et Moi Ring? 5 Toi et Moi Designs for You
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So, you’re in the market for a ring – perhaps you’re looking for that perfect engagement ring that’ll make your significant other say “I do” in a heartbeat!
You can choose from many wonderful engagement ring designs, but one ring is so special, with an underlying meaning you must know about.
In this post, we’re excited to introduce the Toi et Moi ring; you may already be familiar with it or have never come across it!
We’ll explain exactly what a Toi et Moi ring is, why you should consider one for an engagement ring, and show you some beautiful designs you won’t wait to get your hands on.
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What is a Toi et Moi Ring?
A vintage Toi et Moi ring is a gorgeous design that features two intertwining diamonds at the center, fused together in an almost “infinity symbol” shape. Over the years, the Toi et Moi ring has been modernized to have varying shapes and sizes of diamonds, but the central feature of two stones remains the same.
The name “Toi et Moi” is derived from the French language, meaning “You and Me,” which makes it the perfect ring for engagements – after all, marriage is all about you and the person you love!
It is thought that the two central diamonds or gemstones are designed to symbolize the meeting or joining of two souls, which is significant for engagements. It could be viewed as an eternal bond that represents an unbreakable unity.
The diamonds or gemstones in Toi et Moi rings can be the same size, shape, cut, and color, which can show balance and equality between the couple. They can also be completely different to show two unique personalities fusing together or varying shades of your personal style.
You can have your ring set with a classic white diamond or create a unique look with a colored diamond or gemstone. Generally, the diamonds and gemstones match in color to continue these symbols of equality and unity, but more recently, couples are finding inventive ways to pair together colors and shapes that represent their union.
The Origin of Toi et Moi Rings
Toi et Moi rings are steeped in history, and they date all the way back to 1796. It is thought they first became popular when Napoleon Bonaparte declared his love to his beau Josephine de Beauharnais by asking for her hand in marriage with a Toi et Moi engagement ring.
Since then, they have continued to be popular engagement ring choices for centuries as they are believed to be an exquisite example of two lovers joining together for eternity.
Why is Toi et Moi such a popular choice nowadays?
Besides the fact that they symbolize everything great about love and marriage, Toi et Moi rings have become a staple within popular culture, thus increasing their popularity.
One of Hollywood’s “IT” couples, Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly, announced their engagement earlier this year. Megan was then seen wearing a stunning Toi et Moi ring with an emerald and a diamond at its center to represent their birthstones. They even custom-designed the ring to have a gold band in which the diamonds were set with the shape of thorns encasing the stones.
Further to this, mega-star Kylie Jenner received a Toi et Moi ring from partner Travis Scott which featured a more unusual design of a teardrop-shaped diamond and a large rectangular diamond beside it. Travis even gifted their daughter, Stormi, a matching smaller version of the ring – oh, to be a billionaire!
To add to the growing list of celebrities who love Toi et Moi rings, Ariana Grande has been spotted wearing a gorgeous Toi et Moi design that features a large, oval-cut diamond with a subtle pearl beside it. Fans also believe that the pearl was an heirloom from Ariana’s grandfather’s tie pin, which shows how you can add a sentimental piece to your Toi et Moi ring of choice.
With all the celebrity love for Toi et Moi rings, it’s no wonder they are fast becoming the most sought-after designs on the market.
Picking the Right Toi et Moi Ring
While Toi et Moi rings are utterly stunning and super popular, it is essential to consider the practicalities of the ring you choose – especially if it is one you intend to wear every day, such as an engagement ring.
The design of a Toi et Moi ring can mean that the diamonds or gemstones are exposed to damage more frequently than other designs. It would be best if you considered this when designing the right Toi et Moi ring for you, and your jeweler will be able to advise on what is practical for your lifestyle.
Toi et Moi Designs You Can Take Inspiration From
As you’ve seen throughout this blog, you can design a Toi et Moi in many ways to symbolize your relationship, and there are no exact rules about how your central stones should look.
Some people prefer to go for matching stones in size, cut, clarity, and color, while others prefer to dare to be different with unique designs that have meaning to them.
You want to be mindful of your stone’s hardness, as it is best to choose a harder stone for durability and longevity. Gemstones are rated out of 10 for hardness, with 10/10 being the hardest.
Diamonds have a hardness rating of 10/10, with sapphires and rubies coming in second at 9/10 on the hardness scale, making them perfect for Toi et Moi designs.
Some great combinations include:
○ Your Birthstone + Your Partner’s Birthstone
○ Your Birthstone + Diamond
○ Diamond + Sapphire
○ Diamond + Ruby
○ Diamond + Emerald
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Blue sapphires and white diamonds make for an incredible combination, but the decision comes down to your style and what you think looks best!
If you’re unsure which gemstones would work best together – why not visit us at the Ben Garelick showroom, where you can see the combinations for yourself?
Our Toi et Moi rings are some of our favorites. Here are some recommendations we believe you’ll love:
Lafonn Toi et Moi Pear Emerald Cut Ring
Ben Garelick Emerald Princess Cut Toi et Moi Engagement Ring
A True Symbol of Love
Toi et Moi rings encapsulate everything it means to be in love, but they don’t have to be purely a symbol of love.
They are designs that can have as many meanings as the wearer likes, whether for an engagement or a fashion piece.
They continue to grow in popularity and will be a staple ring design for many years.
You can try on a Toi et Moi ring at the Ben Garelick showroom to get a feel for the design. If you can’t visit, speak with one of our team where you can try out a Toi et Moi ring in the comfort of your home!
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